What I've been doing
May. 23rd, 2016 09:56 amIt's been awhile.
We've been very busy since November...Jenny came to visit for Thanksgiving.
Then the fun started. MY FIL got so bad that he was starting to fight Larry and his brother Mark. He was calling 25+ times a day to both of them and there was no pacification at all. On about December 12, Mark was brushing his teeth one morning and Dad met him with fists raised. Mark moved in with us.
Both brothers stayed away as much as possible to see how the parents got along, though both Mark and Larry made sure they had food and such. On Feb 12, a friend called and said Dad's injured foot was infected; Mark went up to check it and it was really bad. Larry took Dad to the hospital and they removed a toe.
He was so mean and uncontrollable that they got rid of him asap and the rehab facility(Golden Living) kept him about a week, maybe 10 days before he hit a caregiver and tried to run over some guests in a wheelchair, as well as trying to escape three times. They sent him to the local hospital for a psych eval. All this time, Larry is trying to get guardianship because all the medical morons are telling him that if Dad wants to come home, he can.
The local hospital sent him to one(Davis Regional) more than an hour away - where he was reported to be docile. He stayed there maybe a week as well. This is now March, maybe mid March. That hospital arranged for him to be sent to a Dementia/Alzheimer's facility called Brookdale an hour away as well. Larry began to work on getting him transferred to something more local.
We had not seen him in several days. Larry saw him at the last hospital... he did not visit him personally because his presence always made Dad go bonkers. We went down to Brookdale to take him more clothes and such and there he was, no glasses, in a bib, babbling incoherently and unable to stand! I barely recognized him. The excuse was that the Alzheimer's had done this. Um, no. In my opinion, it was the massive amounts of drugs they gave him to make docile. Four days later, Brookdale called and said he was unresponsive. He had massive, systemic infection and was sent to hospice care on Friday and died about 26 hours later.
So that was December-March. Mark is living at home with Mom, who is also in dementia and doesn't know her head from a hole in wall. I treid to help by making dinner 2-3 times a week but Mark got so hateful that I said 'Fuck it' and don't even go to visit.
I have been very involved in fandom and busy with many things there. It has been my refuge through all this crap with the in-laws. I do a biweekly update(lj user=universe_today> in the Babylon 5 fandom as well as modding and leading some of the discussion on a B5 rewatch![[community profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/community.png)
b5_revisited as well. We are in the middle of our Annual OEAM Big Bang right now too. Also, ![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
talullahred tells me we are getting closer to having all our fiction migrated to OEAM's new self upload site. I am hoping to have a grand opening soon. There are many of you out there who are helping do this and I will thank you all by name when we go live. I don't know what we'd have done without your help.
Jenny came to visit on May 5th and we shopped and cooked and had a lovely time. We did some crafts of which I will post pics later on LJ and we cooked. We planted a few things in pots, which is how I garden these days. We saw Captain America: Civil War and loved it. My Tony/Steve bunnies are biting. We also got colds, and mine laid me low for several days. We dropped Jenny at the airport on Wednesday and I haven't actually left the house since! I didn't do anything but lay on the sofa and watch tv until Saturday.
I am better now and am ready to finish uploading my fics to OEAM, get to work on that OEAMBB fiction and try to get through June. We lost our Sara 11 years ago in June and my mom 7 years ago in June. It's a hard month. Keep us in your thoughts.
Oh and towel day is May 25th! So drink a Pangalactic Gargle Blaster in Douglas Adam's memory! And don't forget your towel!
We've been very busy since November...Jenny came to visit for Thanksgiving.
Then the fun started. MY FIL got so bad that he was starting to fight Larry and his brother Mark. He was calling 25+ times a day to both of them and there was no pacification at all. On about December 12, Mark was brushing his teeth one morning and Dad met him with fists raised. Mark moved in with us.
Both brothers stayed away as much as possible to see how the parents got along, though both Mark and Larry made sure they had food and such. On Feb 12, a friend called and said Dad's injured foot was infected; Mark went up to check it and it was really bad. Larry took Dad to the hospital and they removed a toe.
He was so mean and uncontrollable that they got rid of him asap and the rehab facility(Golden Living) kept him about a week, maybe 10 days before he hit a caregiver and tried to run over some guests in a wheelchair, as well as trying to escape three times. They sent him to the local hospital for a psych eval. All this time, Larry is trying to get guardianship because all the medical morons are telling him that if Dad wants to come home, he can.
The local hospital sent him to one(Davis Regional) more than an hour away - where he was reported to be docile. He stayed there maybe a week as well. This is now March, maybe mid March. That hospital arranged for him to be sent to a Dementia/Alzheimer's facility called Brookdale an hour away as well. Larry began to work on getting him transferred to something more local.
We had not seen him in several days. Larry saw him at the last hospital... he did not visit him personally because his presence always made Dad go bonkers. We went down to Brookdale to take him more clothes and such and there he was, no glasses, in a bib, babbling incoherently and unable to stand! I barely recognized him. The excuse was that the Alzheimer's had done this. Um, no. In my opinion, it was the massive amounts of drugs they gave him to make docile. Four days later, Brookdale called and said he was unresponsive. He had massive, systemic infection and was sent to hospice care on Friday and died about 26 hours later.
So that was December-March. Mark is living at home with Mom, who is also in dementia and doesn't know her head from a hole in wall. I treid to help by making dinner 2-3 times a week but Mark got so hateful that I said 'Fuck it' and don't even go to visit.
I have been very involved in fandom and busy with many things there. It has been my refuge through all this crap with the in-laws. I do a biweekly update(lj user=universe_today> in the Babylon 5 fandom as well as modding and leading some of the discussion on a B5 rewatch
b5_revisited as well. We are in the middle of our Annual OEAM Big Bang right now too. Also, talullahred tells me we are getting closer to having all our fiction migrated to OEAM's new self upload site. I am hoping to have a grand opening soon. There are many of you out there who are helping do this and I will thank you all by name when we go live. I don't know what we'd have done without your help. Jenny came to visit on May 5th and we shopped and cooked and had a lovely time. We did some crafts of which I will post pics later on LJ and we cooked. We planted a few things in pots, which is how I garden these days. We saw Captain America: Civil War and loved it. My Tony/Steve bunnies are biting. We also got colds, and mine laid me low for several days. We dropped Jenny at the airport on Wednesday and I haven't actually left the house since! I didn't do anything but lay on the sofa and watch tv until Saturday.
I am better now and am ready to finish uploading my fics to OEAM, get to work on that OEAMBB fiction and try to get through June. We lost our Sara 11 years ago in June and my mom 7 years ago in June. It's a hard month. Keep us in your thoughts.
Oh and towel day is May 25th! So drink a Pangalactic Gargle Blaster in Douglas Adam's memory! And don't forget your towel!